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I've seen this a couple of times now, on the internet and from my mother, and it upsets me: people who think Jon Snow from Game of Thrones can't be a virgin because, let's be honest, he's fucking gorgeous. And it's TV and it's HBO so maybe he's not, but whatever. Just because he's attractive and people want to bone him doesn't mean that he wants to bone them. I mean, the reason behind his virginity is pretty legit - being a bastard child himself has really messed him up, and he doesn't want to inflict that on his children. I mean, there are plenty of people out there who don't want to be like their parents.
But besides all that, even if there was no reason, I don't think his virginity should be in question. I think it upsets me because attractiveness should not be linked to one's sex drive. Here's the thing, I've been thinking about this for a while, and there's that whole spectrum out there of gay vs straight, but there's also everything between nymphomaniac and completely asexual, and if we're going to be honest with each other, I fall more towards the latter. And if Jon Snow can't be a virgin because he's attractive, then am I a virgin because I'm unattractive? Does the fact that I'm not really that interested in having sex with anyone, that I'm honestly fulfilled by cuddling, that sexual attraction has always confused me just a little, does this make me unattractive, undesirable? Because I'm not sexless, I'm not asexual, and I want to be wanted. This thing with Jon Snow has just struck a chord with me. As a twenty year old virgin, I need people like Jon Snow. Everyone says it's okay to be a virgin, but there needs to be people out there, real or not, in a mythical land or not, in the public eye showing that it is okay. And I need people like Jon Snow to prove to me that I'm not a virgin because I'm unattractive. I know why I'm a virgin, and it's not because no one has ever had any interest in me.
But besides all that, even if there was no reason, I don't think his virginity should be in question. I think it upsets me because attractiveness should not be linked to one's sex drive. Here's the thing, I've been thinking about this for a while, and there's that whole spectrum out there of gay vs straight, but there's also everything between nymphomaniac and completely asexual, and if we're going to be honest with each other, I fall more towards the latter. And if Jon Snow can't be a virgin because he's attractive, then am I a virgin because I'm unattractive? Does the fact that I'm not really that interested in having sex with anyone, that I'm honestly fulfilled by cuddling, that sexual attraction has always confused me just a little, does this make me unattractive, undesirable? Because I'm not sexless, I'm not asexual, and I want to be wanted. This thing with Jon Snow has just struck a chord with me. As a twenty year old virgin, I need people like Jon Snow. Everyone says it's okay to be a virgin, but there needs to be people out there, real or not, in a mythical land or not, in the public eye showing that it is okay. And I need people like Jon Snow to prove to me that I'm not a virgin because I'm unattractive. I know why I'm a virgin, and it's not because no one has ever had any interest in me.
So everyone, listen up, until HBO tells us otherwise, just accept that Jon Snow is a virgin, because there's nothing wrong with that, and because how attracted you are to a person does not relate to their own personal desire to have sex.